Relationship Dashboard Plan

The Relationship Dashboard is a marriage plan. A couple sits down and decides, in writing, how they will spend time together, run the house, and stay on the same page about money.

It is for the married couples in your group.

Affection

What are the top ten ways your spouse experiences affection?

Conversation

The sheet calls this intimate conversation and sets the target at 15 hours a week. The point is to guard specific times for conversation rather than hope for them.

Block five slots. For each one write the day of the week, the time, and the hours. Then add up the hours and see what you actually have.

Recreation

What activities will the two of you consistently enjoy together?

Name up to three, and how often you plan to do each.

Attraction

One weekly date night, implemented and guarded. Write down the day and the time.

The home plan

Get to a clear understanding of household responsibilities. Cover every task that comes around at least monthly. The sheet starts you off with these and leaves room for a lot more, and it warns you that one page will probably not hold them all.

• Laundry
• Grocery shopping
• Taking out the trash
• Cooking dinner
• Putting the kids to bed
• Finances
• Cleaning the bathroom, weekly
• Car cleaning and maintenance

Every line gets a name next to it.

The monthly board meeting

Pick a day of the month and a time, and keep it. That is where the money and the calendar stay on the same page.

The agenda:

• Review the next six weeks on the calendar
• Create the budget for the month
• Pay the monthly bills
• Review your financial situation
• Review this plan
• Review your parenting plan
• Review your household plan

Then walk through three colors.

• Red. Are there problems we are avoiding that we should say out loud?
• Yellow. Are there areas of caution one of us should name?
• Green. Are there areas of encouragement we should share?